Dose of Depth

When Being Attracted to Someone Catches You Off Guard

Deborah Lukovich, PhD Season 5 Episode 6

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Ever find yourself attracted to someone you shouldn’t be attracted to
especially when you’re already in a relationship?

What if that attraction isn’t a threat…but a message?

In this short video, I explore how attraction often points to something your unconscious is asking you to develop, reclaim, or live more fully. Instead of acting on attraction or suppressing it, I suggest lingering with it and listening for what wants to be known.

I share personal examples of being intensely drawn to people who were unavailable and how, once I understood what I was really attracted to, their literal pull dissolved. What remained was desire for essence: creativity, authority, justice, devotion to purpose.

When we pursue those qualities in our own lives, attraction often transforms.

🔗 Learn more through my 3P’s Framework for uncovering the hidden meaning of attraction: https://www.deborahlukovich.com/post/still-stewing-about-the-last-fight-with-your-romantic-partner

📖 Read my article: When Is Sexual Attraction Not About Sex?: https://www.deborahlukovich.com/post/when-is-sexual-attraction-not-about-sex

📘 My memoir brings these ideas to life through lived experience. Learn more here: https://www.deborahlukovich.com/whensexmeetsgod

Attraction doesn’t always ask for action.

Sometimes it asks for integration.

Dr. Deborah Lukovich

#Attraction #Relationships #DepthPsychology #SelfAwareness #UnconsciousMind #EmotionalGrowth

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